It’s the beginning of October and the veil is thin all month long. I thought the perfect article to kick off my favorite month of the year would be to get into a topic that has to do with you personally experiencing the veil being thin in your own life.
A night diver is someone who sees into the other side, so even if you are not aware that you can, it may have been there all your life. It has to do with the “clairs,” that is of seeing (clairvoyance), hearing (clairaudience), feeling (clairsentience), knowing (claircognizance), smelling (clairalience) things, whether that’d be people, situations, energies etc. beyond this plane that we’re on. I wanted to write about this for anyone who doesn’t yet realize they are experiencing it—the following things can occur in your life. And if they have, it could help to do more research into the clairs to understand yourself on a new level, to start believing that you may be a night diver (we also can develop these abilities). I’ve found it helps to separate all of what you experience into threatening/nonthreatening categories so that you can better manage your reactions. I’ll do my best to explain how each of the below occurs.
Shadows
You can sense other people’s shadows, in any form. You can sense their feelings of embarrassment, fear, vulnerability, shame, anger, they’re having a bad day, they’re not in a good place emotionally-all feelings they are feeling about themselves-without them telling you.
You may: feel empathy, want to support, want to take care of someone very much, want to avoid someone
How to handle this: Most of the time this is nonthreatening, but in some cases for example say if they feel fear around you, like they’re doing an ego check to ensure they don’t do something around you, you may confuse their fear for your own, and then think that you’re afraid of them doing exactly what they’re afraid of doing. In reality you’re letting the shadow that comes in not go out, you’re identifying with it which can get tricky when it happens. In other cases you may want to steer clear lest you get burned if they take their anger, bad day or emotionally ill feelings out on you, and this can be premonitive, a split second before you interact with them you may hear you should not. It’s hard to catch this if you’re unfamiliar, but beginning to slow down and practicing listening to your body in all ways can help.
You can sense their shadows about you so feelings they feel toward you like if they don’t like you (resentment), jealous/competitive attitude toward you, or deeper power dynamics so if they are exerting manipulation or control toward you even subtly. You will know this is occurring because these feelings will come into you out of nowhere, it will fit the moment if you just walked into a room and saw the person (don’t have to interact) or if you were with the person a few days before even. You will feel these types of things-resentment or jealousy/competitive or deeper power dynamics-come over you as if they are your own. You have to be careful because your behaviors can be dictated by their feelings (the behaviors are not behaviors you want to be doing but you’re doing it anyway).
You may: feel threatened, panic, get angry, feel sorry for the person, want to leave where you are if they’re there
How to handle this: Check your feelings against what you naturally feel because it can help calm your own emotions and lessen a knee-jerk reaction. You can say well what does jealousy feel like for me, I remember when I felt jealous of Y person, okay I know how I felt and this feels different, a quick check in could make you realize this isn’t mine. Another thing to think about is because we’re referring to that which is unseen, then it would mean the person did nothing (on this plane) toward you. It’s more like on an etheric level you can feel their shadow and it’s intense, but that doesn’t warrant a reaction toward them, so you may want to keep it to yourself observe and try to understand what is best for you to do for example distance yourself if needed say if this happens every time you see the person. Reacting outright could harm you and the other person because they will not understand what they did since you’re sensing this on an energetic level only. It’s like trying to hold a ghost accountable - it doesn’t work. Our shadows are indeed like ghosts in that they are hidden parts of us especially if we’re committed to keeping up a facade.
Secrets
You can hear people’s secrets or feel them. Some examples: when someone is talking, you hear a voice “they’re only asking you to go to that place because it makes it easier for them to manipulate and control you.” When someone declines an invitation you hear a voice “growing up they accepted less than they deserved, they find it hard to accept now.” This voice (in the form of thoughts) sounds like yours, but it’s talking directly about others, and not assuming. You know how sometimes when we think thoughts we can assume, like aw they must xyz or if the thoughts are about you, like I think xyz about myself, but this voice/these types of thoughts are different. Another example could be if you’re with someone, and you feel the secret of someone close to them: they’re into the person you’re with. What to do? See below.
You may: feel worried, sad, overthink, lash out, try to control the person’s secret, try to confront everyone involved
How to handle this: With secrets it’s similar to shadows, reflect on what’s best for you to do and sometimes there is nothing to do but energetically hold space for what you heard. Trusting the secrets you take in and keeping them safe is paramount but hard because the society we live in has moved us away from the body (away from the feminine in all of us) and so it may take time and patience to really appreciate this ability in you, that it’s real and a part of you and you have every right to act on it if you need to for example leaving a situation. In a tricky case like finding out someone is into your partner and they’re very close, try some reflective Qs like can I allow things to unfold without trying to control/change/fix what is? Does it make sense for me to bring down the house when in reality no one has crossed any boundaries (on this plane)? From an objective consciousness, is there a bigger picture lesson as to why this person is interested in my partner - are they not happy with theirs and it’s helping them realize that, is knowing my awesome partner helping them understand relationship ideals they want/strive for? In any case with secrets, you may realize that taking the secrets you hear personally means you’re going around trying to be a spiritual exterminator in a nonspiritual world and that can have consequences that may not be worth it.
Dreams
You have dreams that predict what’s coming the next day, and/or you’ve interacted with others and have dreams about them right before or right after that give you information about them (could be just info or forewarning, it can also reveal their shadows/secrets like if they’re heavily into drugs/drinking but that’s never been shown to you in real life, if they’re feeling resentful toward you, etc). You could also wake up and before you come out of sleep, you could hear the same message repeating over and over about someone or something.
You may: feel empathy, disturbed, protective of yourself
How to handle this: Buying a dream journal signals to the universe that you’re getting serious about your subconscious and decoding it, so that’s a great start. Keeping it right next to you so you can just reach over and write down what happened half-awake works well. Be sure to include the general feeling you had in the dream like “scared, happy, in love, peaceful” because you will connect the dots with this especially when it comes to the people dreams. Dreammoods.com is a great website to use for symbols, like if something in the dream stands out like in one dream if a huge full moon lit bright in the sky or in another you are lighting candles, or in another a snake crawling up the wall and then coming toward you or another you find a wad of cash in your bag when you thought you had none, looking up moon, candles, snake, or money is a great way to start to understand the dream on a whole. Also note when you dream about the same object/animal/etc. repeatedly and to what waking situations it applied. Evaluate all of this info for yourself and reflect on if you need to take action because of it. This ability is the most deeply personal IMO because you’re sleeping, it can directly connect you to yourself and reveal exactly what you’re going through (always emotionally because dreams are about our subconscious) and people you’ve been involved with in the past, present, etc. with you realizing things about them without ever having to be in contact them.
Other
You may take on physical pain of those close to you, example: the person you live with is having trouble with their arm this hits you out of nowhere when you’re out and about, your arm physically feels like it’s breaking down like you can’t use it, and this lasts for a while, and it repeats itself through the days until the feeling leaves your body. You can wait for it to leave or you can practice exercises to help it move through you, but it’s nothing to be afraid of though it can be startling, especially if you check double check triple check nothing’s happened to your arm, you didn’t hurt it or lift anything (again this comes into you out of nowhere).
You may step into a rental car or a car for sale (the point is it’s not your car) that reeks of smoke you smell for miles as you drive in it for quite some time and later when you give the car back you have a deep craving for fast food, but you never eat fast food so this craving hits you out of nowhere but coincided with you being in the car. You can follow the craving or let it pass but keep in mind when others energy influences us to move in a certain way it can be troublesome and affect our freedom and free will. This can also apply if you have never been romantically interested in X person but they’re showing interest in you and suddenly you’re asking to see their work online but with an inner conflict that is confusing: you know you could care less about their work online. Again checking in with yourself - how do I feel when I am romantically interested in someone, oh I remember when I was romantically interested in this other person, okay no this is not how I felt, so these aren’t my feelings and I need to disengage.
A lot of being a night diver is realizing when you take things in on any level, without anyone showing it to you or without anything prompting it. You don’t have to be afraid of the energy around you, it is everywhere coming from everyone, but recognizing when it’s not your own helps lessen the fear. It takes practice with getting into your body like doing mindfulness exercises or body scans often. When you can get past the fear, you’ll understand these abilities exist in you for a reason - to keep you safe, to help you connect with others on a deeper level, to rely on and trust your body’s intelligence, and to see the higher perspective that we as souls are not separate from each other.
Come see me in person :) On Saturday, October 25 I’ll be conducting The Body is an Oracle Sessions (inspired by the guidebook) at Magia’n Light in North Brunswick, NJ.
Jennifer Diane is a writer, artist and intuitive based out of New Jersey. Healing with the Occult is a publication that offers insight into the psyche and other transformative knowledge through various creative mediums.